Money & Marriage: The Emotional Aspect of Money
The combination of Money & Marriage can be a stressful one! Did you know that money troubles are the cause of most divorces?
Regardless of where you are at with your Separation and Divorce, the first thing you need to gain, is control of your EMOTIONs.
You need to make sure you are WELL. You need to be realistic. Did you know it is a scientific fact* that when emotion is high, intelligence is low?
You will gain nothing if you cannot control your emotion. We don’t mean suppress it and pretend it does not exist because it does, but you need to deal with it sooner than later. You may need professional help. Please do not be afraid to reach out for support.
You also need to make sure your children are doing well. Don’t kid yourself, it does not matter what age your kids are at, the separation/divorce will affect them for the rest of their life.
This is NOT your children’s issue. Leave them out of it!!!! We cannot stress this enough. Your children deserve both a mother and a father! (Unless of course there are abuse issues) You will NOT gain anything using your children for your marital issues.
Money & Marriage: When emotion is high it is very costly to deal with the financial issues.
The process of divorce takes a lot of time, stress and money. The biggest issue we see in this regard is when one party does not have the knowledge, courage or the wherewithal to negotiate. We believe that you need to know the rules and how the game is played or you may end up feeling you have LOST. We see it all the time. “Why didn’t my lawyer tell me that? I just wanted it to be over” I didn’t know that."
Education and knowledge is very powerful. You will also gain confidence once you have knowledge, especially if you were the one in the relationship who did not control the finances. We’ve seen horrific financial issues where the naive person gets “taken advantage of” due to lack of knowledge.
Don’t assume your lawyer knows all the details of financial products.
Be smart about what you are fighting for. It all cost time, stress and money. Get educated. Get Help!